Midwest Mary

My friend, Greg, says that whatever decision we make is the best choice. We consider the options to the best of our ability with the information we have at the time. Regret and second guesses are pointless.

I believe Greg to be correct in his assessment. When making decisions, especially for our loved ones, the weight of choosing what is best for them is heavy. But the winding road of life doesn’t allow us to see what is beyond the bend. We only know what we see and can make a judgment with that information.

Following is an excerpt from Inspired Caregiving. Weekly Morale Builders that reminds caregivers, as well as those who are not, to keep these points in mind when making decisions.

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“Everything is clearer in retrospect. You know what or how you could have done something better when looking back. Things are not so clear or easy when you are under pressure to care for your loved one 24/7. Your responsibilities are great, and you often must perform your duties without proper rest or assistance.

Most of us caregivers are much kinder and forgiving to others than to ourselves. Instead of shaming yourself about something you could have done better, realistically look at the forest instead of the trees: You have so much responsibility that it is impossible to be at the top of your game at all times. Tell yourself what you would tell a friend: ‘Don’t get stuck on failures. It benefits no one.’

Prayer: Your forgiveness, Lord, releases me from my failings. I promise to strive to more fully reflect your light. “

–excerpt from Inspired Caregiving. Weekly Morale Builders

©Mary K. Doyle, 2026