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Advocate for Your Health

For some, good health is given. For others, like me, it’s hard-earned. I exercise and maintain a healthy diet. I see my doctors and follow their guidance, for the most part. I also investigate alternative remedies that my body tends to tolerate better.

In my opinion, most American doctors today follow a set response to symptoms. They don’t think creatively. If our symptoms aren’t rectified by ticking off their particular list, we are out of luck, unless we can do some of the thinking for them.

For example, I had been seeing doctors and having tests for decades for chronic pain and illness, but no one picked up that I had a form of Lyme disease. It took a functional medicine doctor sending my blood to a specific lab for tick-borne illnesses. Her herbal treatments were difficult to get through because the tick-borne bacterias I carried were deeply embedded. In the end, I was tremendously better, at least with those symptoms.

My blood pressure was also high for nearly a decade, and the smallest amount of stress pushed me close to a dangerous point. Physicians told me I had to get it under control. The high pressure caused constant headaches, my kidneys were shrinking, and I was at risk of a stroke. I already had a series of TIAs (Transient Ischemic Attacks, or small strokes) while caring for my husband.

Medications and alternative treatments either caused an allergic reaction, reduced the blood pressure to dangerously low numbers, or were ineffective. Over the last year, I also struggled to breathe. I felt as if I was being smothered.

I went through a series of specialists–neurologist, nephrologist, cardiologist, and finally a gastroenterologist–all of whom took months to get an appointment with, ordered tests, and then recommended another specialist.

Throughout all of this, I continued to advocate for myself. I read everything I could find and begged physicians to help me figure out the root of my symptoms, to think beyond the typical protocol. I didn’t simply want another prescription and sent on my way, as was the way with a hiatal hernia that showed up on scans over the last ten years. Every doctor wanted to prescribe medication for acid reflux, which I did not have.

When I visited the cardiologist, he ordered an MRI of my kidneys, because the kidneys help control blood pressure. The test showed that the hiatal hernia had increased in size. Then I went to the gastroenterologist, and I pushed for an endoscopy to look further at the hernia. This was the turning point I needed.

The doctor who performed the test said my stomach was in my chest, pressing on my heart, and pushing my left lung to the side. I needed surgery as soon as possible. That got the ball rolling, and I had surgery on March 11th.

There were a few risks for surgery due to my high blood pressure and a vascular disease that I have that restricts blood flow (fibromuscular dysplasia), as well as a long list of allergies.

In addition, the surgeon said that the situation was more severe than the tests showed. Nearly my whole stomach had attached itself to the heart and left lung, pushing the lung to my side. The Type 3 paraesophageal hiatal hernia was also entangled with critical nerves and arteries. (Note in the image below that the stomach should be below the liver and above the intestines.)

Amazingly, the surgeon was able to perform the surgery robotically, working through five small incisions and expanding my chest with CO2 gas to allow greater space to operate. I got through surgery without complications, and I immediately had relief with breathing. Every doctor told me that the hernia repair would not lower my blood pressure, but now it is perfect.

If you are not receiving answers for your health concerns, don’t give up. Do some research, seek other physicians, and push for different tests.

And if you have a hiatal hernia, have it checked periodically, especially if you have symptoms that disrupt your daily living. The surgeon said that had I waited much longer, I’d have required emergency life-saving surgery with an uncertain outcome.

**ACTA Publications is currently offering my book, Tranquility Transformation Transcendence, at a special price of $10. This is a great book to bring to a hostess, someone who is not feeling well, or add to a gift package with a little plant or pretty dish towels.

©Mary K. Doyle, 2026

Responses to “Advocate for Your Health”

  1. CJ Antichow

    Wow you’ve been through a lot Mary, good for you for advocating though! Imagine all the people who are not, or don’t…how that affects outcomes 😩

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      This makes me sad for those without healthcare or the ability to persevere and investigate. Thank you, CJ. I appreciate you.

      1. CJ Antichow

        Thank you Mary, I appreciate you and knowing you as well ☺️

  2. Victoria

    Mary…I knew you were dealing with some health issues last month but had no idea about the details. Thank you for sharing here – powerful testimony about the importance of being a self-advocate, despite how exhausting it can be (on top of everything else). What you said here about medical professionals, well intended, perhaps — but flawed, truly resonates:
    “If our symptoms aren’t rectified by ticking off their particular list, we are out of luck, unless we can do some of the thinking for them.”
    Sending loads of love to you. And big hugs, too. 💝💝💝

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, dear Vicki. I debated about if and what to say about it all but always want to inspire and offer hope. Sometimes, we need a push to keep taking that next step forward. Love to you.

      1. Victoria

        I am certain sharing your story and your valuable insights will absolutely help others, dear Mary. Big hugs…big, big hugs! 🌸😊🌸

  3. vermavkv

    This is a powerful and deeply inspiring account. Your courage, persistence, and unwavering self-advocacy truly stand out. Despite years of uncertainty and struggle, you trusted your instincts and kept seeking answers—and that made all the difference.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      It surely did, my friend. Thank you for your compassionate comment.

  4. Looking for the Light

    You’re right on the money! If you don’t fit their criteria they don’t look out of the box. It takes special doctors and they are hard to find. Thanks for sharing, it will help others understand the medical landscape, and how important it is to advocate for yourself.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      You know all of this better than anyone, Melinda. You are always advocating for yourself and your audience, and I appreciate you.

  5. Louise Dimiceli-Mitran

    Great writing, Mary! Yesterday my oncologist told me she’d like to bottle my energy around keeping myself healthy and give it to her other patients! They’re not exercising, taking the supplements she recommends with the meds, or doing anything. I’m so glad for your excellent outcomes and celebrate this with you! Love! Louise

    Louise Dimiceli-Mitran, LCPC, MT-BC, FAMI Rhythms Within PLLC Counseling & Music Psychotherapy louisedmitran@gmail.com 773-426-3142 http://www.louisedmitran.com GIM Trainer Therapeutic Arts Institute

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, my dear friend. You are an incredible mentor to me. I admire your self-care and level of compassion and understanding.

  6. arlene

    So sorry to hear about your ailments Mary. I hope your doctors would find the right cure for all of it. Including you in my prayers.😘

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, Arlene. Prayer is everything, the most powerful remedy of all. Hugs.

  7. Nancy Homlitas

    I’m sorry you had to deal with so many health issues for such a long time! Your proactive involvement in improving your health is admirable and takes self-discipline. Doctors have many patients and can’t always devote the time needed to research unusual cases. That’s why being your own advocate, as you have been, can be life-saving. I’m so glad you’re feeling better, Mary. 🙂

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      You offer an important point, Nancy. Healthcare today is run by corporations. Physicians don’t have the time to care for patients as they once did. It’s not their fault that much is missed today. Thank you, my friend. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.

      1. Nancy Homlitas

        You’re welcome. Mary. 😁⚘️

  8. Stephanie

    Good for you, Mary. So glad you listened to your intuition to keep researching and pushing to follow through. I’ve also dealt with chronic health issues for decades on end and have learned well that doctors are not going to care ‘enough’ to really break through most situations.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Hello Stephanie, I wasn’t sure I’d write about this, but do feel that I wasn’t alone in such a journey. Don’t give up, my friend. Keep talking, thinking, reading. Maybe together we can spark some action to help you. I’m sorry you are suffering.

  9. kagould17

    You are preaching to the choir Mary. My wife has been advocating for her health so long, it seems forever. The good news is we do have an MD. who listens and who thinks outside the box. The problem we run into is the referrals to specialists. They are given as required by our MD, but actual access takes forever. 154 weeks from referral to knee replacement for instance. At some point, you have to make a decision about paying out of pocket. Not everyone can do this however. I hear you on Lyme Disease diagnosis. We have a friend who had Lyme Disease, but diagnosis took forever. What happens to all those folks who trust the system and wait patiently for help that never comes? Happy Wednesday Mary. Allan

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      I’m sorry Patty is also in this situation, Allan. In the US, many don’t have any healthcare and so are limited to options. It’s very sad, indeed. Hugs to both of you.

  10. luisa zambrotta

    Dearest Mary, you’ve been through a lot, but congratulations on defending your health with courage and perseverance.

    I found your story powerful and deeply inspiring, and so I thank you very much for sharing it.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, dear Luisa. I hesitated writing about this but did want to offer hope to those in similar situations. I’m now hearing how common it is. I’m sorry for your troubles and send you love and prayers.

  11. philsblog01

    Mary I am so glad you are tending to your health. Self Care is vital Many fine medical professionals are afraid to leave the script due to lawsuits and regulations.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      You make a great point, Phil. Medicine is very different today. I understand many older doctors left medicine during COVID. In addition, our older population is growing. That is why we do have to do some of the legwork. Thank you very much for reading and adding to this critical story.

      1. philsblog01

        My pleasure. Thanks for sharing Mary.

  12. Under the mask..

    🫣Holy mack’rel, Mary! I’m so sorry for your sufferings all these years and your recent surgery! Glad you and your med personnel finally have a decent handle on some of the care needed.🪻I should have my husband read this; he’s the quintessential “good patient” of old.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      I know that patient! My parents never asked questions, and they were college-educated. They just did what the doctor said. We all have our stuff to deal with but do need to put in some of the work. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I truly appreciate you.

  13. Violet Lentz

    Oh my goodness Mary! I feel almost guilty not being able to share some of this burden with you.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Oh, my dear, Violet. I do not want you to hurt in any way. That would hurt me more! Love to you.

  14. Monkey’s Tale

    Oh I’m so sorry to hear all of this Mary, but thank goodness you finally figured it out. Sending you gentle hugs for a speedy recovery. Maggie

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, Maggie. I hope with all of your international travels and adventures you take precautions against infections and diseases. I’m sure you’ve learned the magic of that. Perhaps you might write a post on how best to accomplish this. Thank you for commenting my friend.

  15. mjeanpike

    Wow, Mary, I’m glad you finally got the right answers. Prayers for complete healing 🙂

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Thank you, Jean! You’re the best.

  16. SiriusSea

    Mary ❤ … Your journey reads like a winter finally giving way to bloom, all that persistence, all that self-advocacy, turning into breath, clarity, and light again. There’s such courage in the way you kept searching for answers, and such hope in the healing that followed. Your story feels like spring itself: a reminder that life can open back up, even after the longest season. 🌿💛 Love always, my gorgeous friend! God Bless You!

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      Exactly, Ms. Siri. We can’t give up. I feel tremendously better. Amazing! Love you much, my friend.

  17. myallaboutyou

    Mary I am glad you found someone to listen. Every time I go to the doctor they feel they have got to prescribe something. It is like they don’t really listen. Glad you are doing well.

    1. Mary K. Doyle

      How about it! Is is that they want to offer a quick fix because the public doesn’t want to do any work? I wonder. Thank you for chiming in with your important commentary.

      1. myallaboutyou

        ☺️

  18. Michael Sammut

    One can only try to imagine what you have been through. What a great mentality, great perseverance. I am glad you are feeling better and thank you for sharing this incredible experience.

  19. Dawn Pisturino

    I agree with you about doctors. Some seem so closed-minded. And they tend to dismiss women as hypochondriacs and complainers. Sounds like you’ve been through a lot.

  20. ✒️🥣Dorothy’s New Vintage Kitchen

    I’m glad you are finally getting the right answers. Unfortunately, most western doctors are taught to treat illnesses, not prevent them, which is one reason why we’re in such a pickle healthwise in this country. Most type II diabetes, for example, can be prevented with diet and exercise, and not just counting carbs either.
    My son-in-law went for three years with undiagnosed Lyme disease until a naturopath and herbalist had his blood tested at a third lab, and it came back positive. Such a shame.

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