Lemons into Lemonade Monday, Jul 8 2013 

Life often makes us experts on topics we’d rather not know about – cancer, combat, financial downfall, sexual assault, divorce, death of a loved one and so on. We never wanted our life-focus to be in that direction. The life-changing situation was thrust upon us, and here we are.

For a rare few, although devastated by the event at the time, it was a mere blimp on their radar. They dealt with the situation and put it behind them.

Others get stuck there. They rerun and re-experience it endlessly. They are crippled by what happened to them, and everything else in their life falls apart.

Most try to turn at least a smidgen of their pain into something positive. They learn from the experience and pass on their new knowledge, helping others to get through a similar problem. They vow to live differently – in a more positive and meaningful way.

It’s not so much what happens to us but how we deal with our great challenges that make our life story interesting and memorable. We aren’t the only person to experience what we did, but that added to the rest of our experiences and personality, and how we use all, is what makes us special.

©2013, Mary K. Doyle

This Too Shall Pass Thursday, Apr 4 2013 

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When we are in the middle of a crisis, it can feel as if there is no end in sight. Dealing with it all is exhausting and depressing. But everything eventually works its way through to completion in some way, or at the very least, transitions into a new normal. When we are doing our best to rectify a situation, sometimes we have no other alternative than to wait it out.

But that waiting can be stressful. We do it so often – we wait in line for the car wash and at the grocery store. We wait for healing, test results, a promotion, and court cases to settle. We wait for acceptance letters, to be pregnant, and for our house to sell. The short waits are annoying. The big ones can be draining.

Countering that waiting period with something fun or productive is an alternative. A good movie or book offers some distraction. For more relief, we might take a class, exercise, pray, meet up with a friend, or volunteer. Our energies can be redirected to fill a need for someone else as well as ourself.

More importantly, we should take full notice of what is happening around us. No matter how challenging the situation, something good is in our life. If we keep our focus in that direction, we won’t miss out on the joys we also have.

The saying, “This too shall pass” has been repeated since medieval times because there is truth in it. We can endure most anything if we know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Life is full of challenges that pop up, but one by one, they do end. In the meantime, we can have hope in the new day and all the blessings that come with it.

©2013, Mary K. Doyle

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